By a working mom of three
As I move through different stages of parenthood as a working parent, I find myself reflecting on the ways I’ve changed. The early months were difficult—exhausting, physically uncomfortable, and full of constant learning. I was figuring out how to care for a baby while also reorienting myself professionally and personally. There was no manual, just a lot of trial, error, and adjusting.
Letting go of the myth of strength
For a while, I equated doing well with being able to handle it all without needing much in return. I thought that pushing through, staying up late, and doing “just one more thing” meant I was doing it right, both at home and at work.
But here’s what I’ve learned—struggling isn’t proof of strength. Being overwhelmed isn’t a requirement for being a good parent or professional.
Research from the American Psychological Association shows that stress and burnout are warning signs, not accomplishments. When I’m depleted, I’m not showing up as my best self for anyone—not my children, my partner, or my colleagues.
Showing up honestly—not perfectly
The shift came when I let go of the idea that being proud to suffer was something to aspire to. I started thinking that instead, I can take myself seriously and still take care of myself. That’s not indulgent—it’s necessary.
From that place, I started making more thoughtful choices about how I spend my energy. I gave myself permission to enjoy what I’m doing, instead of just surviving it.
It hasn’t made everything easy, but it’s made it more honest. And that feels like a better way to show up—for my work, my family, and myself.
Practical tips for the working parent
If you’re navigating the balance of parenthood and career, here are a few simple reminders that have helped me:
Be proud of yourself — Even when it’s not painful. Achievement doesn’t have to come through struggle.
Be present — “Be Where Your Feet Are.” I heard this at a working parent network event, and it stuck with me. When you’re present in the moment, whether at work or at home, you give yourself permission to focus fully.
Track your wins — Make a list. At the end of the week, surprise yourself with how much you’ve actually accomplished.
Pour from a place of abundance — When you align your actions with your authentic self, you’re able to give in a more sustainable and fulfilling way.
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